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Mommy Moments Monday:: Struggling with Depression

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depression

Yes. I have depression. You may be asking yourself, “What do you have to be depressed about?” Well, nothing really. I have been extremely blessed, but depression isn’t about that. Although depression can be related to life events, it is caused from a chemical imbalance in your brain. People have been known to try and correct this chemical imbalance by deciding to buy marijuana online canada. Some mothers and plenty of others I know have started to use CBD for it’s medicinal properties and most have found it’s helped them to cope day to day a little easier, research around if you’d like some more info.

From my experience, depression is often misunderstood. It is due to those misunderstandings that it took me almost two years to get help. Luckily, depression can be helped with therapy.
Two years of feeling sad for no reason. Two years of crying. Two years of feeling like there was a battle inside of me and not knowing what was going on. Two years of arguing with my husband for no reason at all because of all the bottled up emotions inside of me. Two years of feeling like there was something wrong with me. Two years of feeling like I did something wrong. Two years of worrying about what others would think if they found out about how I really felt inside. . .

It was a struggle, and battle daily. I had good days, and I had bad days. I told myself that I had more good days than bad days as an excuse to not get help. Thank goodness I had a wonderful, loving friend who encouraged me to get help. She told me there was nothing wrong with me, and that I hadn’t done anything wrong despite what the view was from other people. My husband was also a big supporter of me getting help.

In March 2012, I finally talked to my doctor about it. It was one of the hardest conversations I had ever had. Not because my doctor judged me or anything like that. It was because I had to admit it out loud, and that was scary for me. Once I admitted it, and started taking a daily antidepressant, I still didn’t tell hardly anyone. I could literally count on one hand the amount of people who knew I was on an antidepressant. I was scared of the stigma that is often associated with depression. So many people are outspoken about it (who have obviously never dealt with it), and say things like, “People who deal with depression are dealing with it because of something they did wrong.” Or “If depressed people would just pray, God will deliver them from it.” {Now, I’m not knocking that God can’t deliver me from it. I’ve prayed about it, and I am still dealing with it. I’ve come to the realization that God is allowing me to deal with it for a reason.} Telling someone they did something wrong and that’s why they have depression is the same thing as telling someone who got into a car accident {even though they were obeying all the traffic laws and were not in the wrong}, that they did something wrong to be in a car accident. It’s insane, and uncalled for! The last thing a person dealing with depression needs is more condemnation or more reasons to not get help!

After dealing with depression for nearly four years, and being on a daily antidepressant for two years, I’ve found that I have certain “triggers” that can cause my depression to “flare up” {No, I’m not always “feeling” down.} Some of the triggers can be controlled. I’ve realized that I start feeling down when I don’t get enough sleep, don’t take my medicine at the same time every day, or am by myself for too long. It’s like a downward spiral when I start feeling down, because my tendency is to withdraw from everyone and everything. It’s hard to resist that urge, but I have to self-consciously make an effort not to do that.

I’ve learned that these things help me deal with my depression and help me keep from withdrawing:

  • Listen to uplifting music
  • Talk to a friend {God has blessed me with a couple good friends who also deal with depression and have been a great source of comfort and encouragement}
  • Go for a walk
  • Get some fresh air
  • Get a change of scenery {even if it’s just going to the mall for a little bit}
  • Put on make-up, and get dressed out of yoga pants and t-shirt {stay at home mom wardrobe 😉 }
  • Take some time to myself
  • Take a nap
  • Cuddle with my husband & watch a movie
  • Stay away from anything that will cause me more stress

If you feel like you have depression, let me encourage you that you didn’t do anything wrong, or anything to “deserve it”. Let me encourage you to get help. If you’re afraid of what others might think of you (like I did), I’ve found that my true friends didn’t judge me one bit. They took me by the hand, prayed with me, talked to me, listened to me, and encouraged me. Your true friends will do the same.

If you deal with depression, I would love to hear what works for you. Please feel free to comment below or email me at frugalfindsduringnaptime@gmail.com.

*I’m not claiming to be an expert in this field. I’m just writing about the struggle I deal with and what works for me. If you do think you have depression, I would encourage you to seek help from a professional.

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    judy maharrey
    November 10, 2014 at 11:44 am

    I have delt with depression all ny lide althoughvi did’t realize it for what it was for a long time. I was embarrested to tell anyone and kept it locked up. I thought I could deal with it on my own. I have been on medication but am not curre tly taking it. Thank you so much for this article and being so honest.

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      Megan
      November 10, 2014 at 2:36 pm

      Judy,
      Thank you for being so encouraging! I am praying you are able to find what works for you in dealing with it. I know it’s not easy.
      -Megan

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